You've got a friend

What beautiful lyrics.

I’ve had lots of people pop in to see me, the pop in sometimes has lasted several hours, I love that phrase “pop in” I think it means when your visiting a cancer patient , I’ll just go in for a few minutes and then if I don’t like it I can make my excuses, I don’t blame anyone for thinking like that.I would have probably felt the same.😀

Don’t be scared of us if you come for a visit , we are not going to spend the time talking about our illness, what a waste of time that is, no we want to talk about life in the outside world.

You see we don’t care about Brexit or the lack of fuel we won’t moan about that because most of us realise it’s pointless wasting our time moaning about stuff that we can’t control. We want to talk about life, well at least that’s what I want to do.🌻🏵️🌸🌺🌷🥀🌹💐

My old neighbour Paul came round yesterday I know he reads this so from me to you Paul thank you a true friend. I’ve also got my old buddy Rick coming over next week and has kept in constant contact with me , thanks buddy another real friend.

It’s unfair I suppose to not mention other people who have visited to everyone that’s shared a nice coffee with me at my house thank you to every single one of you. The instant Costa coffee although not the same as the stuff that comes out of a machine is growing on me now and is not to bad. ☕

Chai tea which I’ve recently purchased still hasn’t made me want another and I’m not convinced maybe just like peanut butter and marmite it will grow on me soon.🤢

I’ve had so many phone calls, sometimes it’s almost like I need a secretary to keep appointments 😀

I’m grateful for each and every phone call, so thank you guys and girls.🙏

My Facebook group has been my rock and inspiration , I’m incredibly blessed to have that support it’s like I’ve got an army beside me as I take on the biggest battle ever, thank you to the group ❤️

I need also want to mention the families and the relatives of cancer patients. I know we are hard work at times and you guys once we are discharged from hospital to go home which is where I am now. 🏡

We bring with us all of our troubles and of course our illness and our side effects from all the treatments. and of course we need someone to moan to about our problems when really it’s you, the families, the mum’s and dad’s, the husbands and wives, the boyfriends and girlfriends and brothers and sisters  that look after us that need love and support and a space to have a little cry every now and then. Thank you for what you do on behalf of us all❤️

My own wife , I don’t know how she copes. How would I cope if the tables are turned, not very well I suspect. She’s has the real strength that I could never possess, thank you babe❤️

Anyone reading this that maybe on their own and not have the support that I’m incredibly lucky to have then you are the bravest of all. This blog wants to support everyone if it could, if your on your own please if your reading this drop me a message and I promise I will get back to you. Nobody should be on their own and dealing with this stuff.🛌

I always like to end the blogs with another life lesson I’ve come across. So many people suffer from stress and anxiety and a good deal.of whst causes the stress and anxiety is uncontrollable.😭

Think about that for a moment please.

I used to tell a story once 

Imagine you are at the end of a rope , your remember the old village green tug of war competitions 

A typical kids tug of war competition

So you are the only one on your side

You are pulling an invisible enemy your on one side the other end of the rope is in a dark pit of dispair and anxiety in fact it represents all the negativity in your head

You pull as hard as you can but you slowly get sapped of strength and the black pit starts to pull you towards it, you fight back but this is a battle you can’t win and gradually inch by inch you are pulled slowly slowly to the edge of the pit, you muster up one last pull but your energy but In this case the situation is uncontrollable. What do you do to keep fighting an impossible fight.

How can you control this situation , you can’t and so many of us will end up being dragged into despair and anxiety the dark pit will win.

But there is a solution 

You can chose to let go of the rope 

Stop trying to control the uncontrollable and you win 

Thank you